Crunk Times, My friend.....Crunk Times

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

lawl, indeed.

Jesus christ. Is this dump on DeMans advice day? Fuck both of you.

I do accept him. But I can't truely accept him as mine until I have some say in how the child is raised, which I don't have yet. I like the little guy don't get me wrong, I play and have fun with him all the time. I just don't have a say in how he should be disciplined. Which, she does a decent job it's just he doesn't get the message sometimes and she doesn't stick to her boundaries, she lets him push her.

trust me, everyone has said that as well. I completely agree with all of you. Trust me, I've tried telling her several times that "that's our time, we don't have any other alone time during the day." but she just ends up falling asleep with her son trying to get him to go to bed. AND even if she did sleep with me he wakes up crying because she isn't by his side.

It's a horrible, horrible pattern she has got him in. Spoiled beyond belief is all I can say.

Well if she doesn't learn to accept this thought and allow you to have more input, she will certainly end up ruining the relationship. My initial advice still stands as you will have gotten it out of the way and able to move on. I hope she does learn to accept your view some and institute some tough love.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

She'll need to accept that this needs to be modified (slowly) or you two are screwed.


Get him a confidence builder. Something that he can treat as more security than his mom. What ever he is into. Like a Spiderman doll or some shit. Use it for transition.

Well, he's also suffering from detachment due to a lack of a father figure. That's probably the root of the issue. If you were allowed to step in, that would heal itself. The womans has to allow it though. Shit, you guys have done 6 months together. If she doesn't give you 'power' now, she may never. In the latter, You're going to be the house bish to that kid forever.

Agree on all counts.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

my parents never coddled me as a baby. They knew when I was really hurt and took care of it. I learned that crying isn't going to get me what I want.
Course, that may have lead to the arrogant prick that I am today, but so what. I'm fuggin awesome. lol

LOL. Same here. My dad provided what was necessary and didn't give in to any of my BS.
Many think I am not so awesome though and tell me I have a poor way of treating or talking to people. I know they are wrong so I maintain that I am awesome. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

Do0d, in all seriousness, I can promise you that is hurting the relationship as well. Admit your faults before you suggest modification to hers during this conversation. That is the ONLY way you will get her engauged.



On the contrary. Find a pillow and put it in the corner. Make him sit on it. Don't let him do a **** thing during his time out and eventually he will learn to loath that one pillow. Then when he acts up, all you'll have to do is say, "stop it or you get the pillow". He'll associate the lack of attention and inability to do anything with a stupid pillow and you get massive ownage. Better yet, take that advice, run it by mom, and make it her idea. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

LOL. Dude you and me are so on the same level. It's scary that both of us don't want kids either //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I'll write it down and bring it up. Wouldn't he despise pillows though?

No. He may try hiding that particuliar pillow, but most will learn that it isn't all pillows that cause this scenario. Which makes it important to use THE SAME pillow everytime. Buy one specifically for this.