Crunk Flammable Jello Times

[joetama 5,000+ posts]

thats just it... there could still be a future... nothing is really settled. every thing still is like it just was.. we hold hands, have good times, enjoy each others company... its like nothing is really different, just kind of in a limbo situation.

Well to be totally honest it doesn't sound like there is a solid prospect for the future.

However, right now you seem like you are not in the mind set for a stable healthy relationship. (I could be wrong, but I have gone through this before so I assume how you are thinking/feeling.)

Anyway, cut it off. Give it time. In a few months maybe even years you two might find it is the right time to get back together. But, I wouldn't recommend it now. Seriously, there is a good chance by then you will have moved on and she will just be some other girl.

I don't mean to be a jerk. But, I can only speak the truth. You obviously have friends and people who care about you. Otherwise none of us on here would care that you are having a problem. Or care to help. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

Sit back and analyze the situation, now would this 'bumpy road' be your ideal candidate for the foundation of a lasting relationship? Only you can decide that, but it would appear quite obvious not.
I can't/won't tell you what to do per say, but I can however make strong suggestions. I've been there/done that and got the T-shirt already. It will be alot of pain,frustration and misery for you. Yes good times as well, but is the final result worth it? Can you live with yourself forever questioning the situation til the end of time? Whether you can or not is irrelevant, you simply should not.

What your doing by letting her initiate communication is playing a game. Unfortunately this is a game of no winners. Both parties will lose in the end.

I have the T-Shirt too.

Anyway, I agree with this man!

 

[6spdcoupe 5,000+ posts]

it wouldnt be the ideal situation to found relationship, but its not really founding it... the relationship is nearly 4 years old.

4 years old doesnt matter when the circumstances are what they are now. You want something that will last 40+ more and this (right now) is just not it. No matter how you try to justify it you will find inside cutting her off really is the right thing.

i wont question it at all... i already know what i want.

What you want in this case is more considered desire. Its naturally wanted because it is difficult to make it work. If things were 'peachy kean' your want/desire level would disappear. Not to say you wouldnt want her, but the situation would be different thus making your overview of it also different.

i dont mean it to be a game, i just want to give her the space she wants and needs.

Im sure your intentions are good, but how is giving her what she wants helping you and your health? You need to start thinking of yourself first and foremost. Is she giving the same favor back to you? Obviously not. Do you first and worry about her after you are satisfied. I commend your selfless acts, but its just not healthy for you. The more you give her is the more you will eventual pain yourself.

 

[hoss 5,000+ posts]

But, I can only speak the truth. You obviously have friends and people who care about you. Otherwise none of us on here would care that you are having a problem. Or care to help. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

i know, and i do appreciate the advice. and dont think it is falling on deaf ears... its just not so easy to accept it, i guess. or to do it. especially when its already been expressed by both parties that we dont want and arent ready to leave each others lives...

 

[joetama 5,000+ posts]

Hey man I understand.

It takes time. But you'll get it figured out!

I feel like I just had a ghey group hug with hossage allover... //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[hoss 5,000+ posts]

haha. that does happen...

been talkint to alot of people on from the forum over the past few days though, and it has helped a good bit...

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

Hollis, trust me, just cut her off, you will eventually feel better, if you don't you'll always be strung out on her and it's just going to drive you mad man.

It's no way to be. Noah through it, we'll get you through it too.

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

I've got that t-shirt too, I wear it while I work on my car.

 

[Acidburn 5,000+ posts]

I've got that t-shirt too, I wear it while I work on my car.

I wear it while I do supa's mom.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

I twist mine around my hand and spin it like a helicopter.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

oh that's good flip....that's good //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif
funniest thing I've heard you say in a while.

I was trying to think of the ebonics way to spell that...but wasn't sure. Just trying to cheer folks up, ya know.

 

[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

i know, and i do appreciate the advice. and dont think it is falling on deaf ears... its just not so easy to accept it, i guess. or to do it. especially when its already been expressed by both parties that we dont want and arent ready to leave each others lives...

Everything you are doing and saying is what I just went through...

I let her intitiate contact... and I was happy whenever she did and whenever I was talking to her... and then depressed when I wasn't. It wasn't fair to me.

If she respects you, she will do what you want. SURPRISE HER... tell her YOU need time too, and to NOT call you or talk to you until she knows what SHE wants. For sure.

If you're that confident in yourself, and in her, she will come to you.

She can't realize what she DOESN'T have... until she truly DOESN'T have it. Give her a taste of that.

I'm telling you, two weeks MINIMUM. No contact WHAT SO EVER.

I deleted her out of my phone, gave my friend my AIM, Facebook, Myspace account logins, and cut that shit off. It was tough, but it made me realize a lot of things. It lasted ~3weeks and at that point I was ready to just be friends.

Anyways, this may not be what you want to do, it's obviously not... but it's what you NEED to do.

If it's worth it... it will survive through a simple 2 weeks... and more. If not, then you'll begin to see. Also, if she respects you... she will honor your request.

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nG

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

http://dayton.craigslist.org/car/669404685.html

 

[joetama 5,000+ posts]

WOW...

Only in Dayton.

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

I'm about to get me some SS wheels. (That's I can't really afford)

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

nd they will realize this. i just dont know... i just want things to be simple.

http://dayton.craigslist.org/car/669404685.html

I saw a wagon for sale in PA online somewhere for $395. I dont think it had pics with the ad though. Probly could request them.