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[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

Tits.

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[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

Ho snaps.

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[hoss 5,000+ posts]

well, she came here last night. cooked her dinner, drank some wine, she spent the night, we had a good time...

now that she is gone again, im back to where i was... sigh... i desperatly want this whole situation to be over...

 

[joetama 5,000+ posts]

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Why are you doing this to yourself Hoss?

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

well, she came here last night. cooked her dinner, drank some wine, she spent the night, we had a good time...
now that she is gone again, im back to where i was... sigh... i desperatly want this whole situation to be over...

You need to cut her.

Like a band aid----"Right off"

 

[joetama 5,000+ posts]

You need to cut her.

Like a band aid----"Right off"

I agree...

Women are like heroin...

You just have to cut it off. Because you feel great when you get them back for a little bit. But, if there is no real future to it all you get is a bad feeling after.

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

well, she came here last night. cooked her dinner, drank some wine, she spent the night, we had a good time...
now that she is gone again, im back to where i was... sigh... i desperatly want this whole situation to be over...

no you dont. desperation (the way you said it) leads to drastic actions. Letting her come over and cooking her dinner and all that, is not drastic action. Didnt you watch how ngsm did the same thing like a few months ago? learn from others...mistakes....no offense ngsm.

 

[ngsm13 5,000+ posts]

no you dont. desperation (the way you said it) leads to drastic actions. Letting her come over and cooking her dinner and all that, is not drastic action. Didnt you watch how ngsm did the same thing like a few months ago? learn from others...mistakes....no offense ngsm.

Yup.

I was really bad at first... tortured myself...

Then I got up the balls to just cut it off... and I told him a few tips already.

TELL HER TO NOT CALL YOU OR TEXT YOU. TELL HER YOU ARE GOING TO DO THE SAME.

Set a goal 2 weeks minimum, and see if you can meet that. I promised if you can hit 2 weeks... it'll help. The 2 weeks will **** *** at first... but you need to do it...

nG

 

[6spdcoupe 5,000+ posts]

well, she came here last night. cooked her dinner, drank some wine, she spent the night, we had a good time...
now that she is gone again, im back to where i was... sigh... i desperatly want this whole situation to be over...

You only causing more pain for yourself (and possibly her). Figure on an addict getting a quick fix then its gone again. This is you everytime you let her back. You kick the habit and then get another quick fix your starting over at ground zero everytime.

Cut your ties and move on, there is no reason to continue torturing yourself like this. Its unhealthy really.

 

[hoss 5,000+ posts]

I agree...
Women are like heroin...

You just have to cut it off. Because you feel great when you get them back for a little bit. But, if there is no real future to it all you get is a bad feeling after.

thats just it... there could still be a future... nothing is really settled. every thing still is like it just was.. we hold hands, have good times, enjoy each others company... its like nothing is really different, just kind of in a limbo situation.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Hoss, there are about 5 people telling you that cutting it off would be best. That was one of the alternatives I mentioned -- of course anytime someone comes to me with a relationship problem I always tell them to ditch her. And the rest of these clowns have no idea about women.

So, I guess you should just do what you want. But if you are going to sleep with her again we will need pics.

 

[hoss 5,000+ posts]

i know there are all the people telling me to cut her off... but if i do that, it rules out any chance of smoothing things out, which is still a huge posibility at this point...

and im not ready for her to leave my life. what i have done though, is i let her make contact every time. i dont call or text her unless she calls or texts me first. i honestly dont think things will work between her and other guy. they already have some problems, and i really believe they are just friends, perhaps rebounding, and they will realize this. i just dont know... i just want things to be simple.

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

Hoss, cold turkey.

I've got shit to get back to.

Seriously.

 

[6spdcoupe 5,000+ posts]

i know there are all the people telling me to cut her off... but if i do that, it rules out any chance of smoothing things out, which is still a huge posibility at this point...
and im not ready for her to leave my life. what i have done though, is i let her make contact every time. i dont call or text her unless she calls or texts me first. i honestly dont think things will work between her and other guy. they already have some problems, and i really believe they are just friends, perhaps rebounding, and they will realize this. i just dont know... i just want things to be simple.

Sit back and analyze the situation, now would this 'bumpy road' be your ideal candidate for the foundation of a lasting relationship? Only you can decide that, but it would appear quite obvious not.

I can't/won't tell you what to do per say, but I can however make strong suggestions. I've been there/done that and got the T-shirt already. It will be alot of pain,frustration and misery for you. Yes good times as well, but is the final result worth it? Can you live with yourself forever questioning the situation til the end of time? Whether you can or not is irrelevant, you simply should not.

What your doing by letting her initiate communication is playing a game. Unfortunately this is a game of no winners. Both parties will lose in the end.

 

[hoss 5,000+ posts]

Sit back and analyze the situation, now would this 'bumpy road' be your ideal candidate for the foundation of a lasting relationship? Only you can decide that, but it would appear quite obvious not.

it wouldnt be the ideal situation to found relationship, but its not really founding it... the relationship is nearly 4 years old.

I can't/won't tell you what to do per say, but I can however make strong suggestions. I've been there/done that and got the T-shirt already. It will be alot of pain,frustration and misery for you. Yes good times as well, but is the final result worth it? Can you live with yourself forever questioning the situation til the end of time? Whether you can or not is irrelevant, you simply should not.

i wont question it at all... i already know what i want.

What your doing by letting her initiate communication is playing a game. Unfortunately this is a game of no winners. Both parties will lose in the end.

i dont mean it to be a game, i just want to give her the space she wants and needs.