Beat my dads a** last night

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

If I was your dad, I'd slit your throat in your sleep.

or beat the shit out of him with a pillowcase full of bars of soap!

 

[James Bang 5,000+ posts]

father or not. a pos is a pos.
Didn't myth buster try to polish a turd? how'd that come out?

nvm.. you can polish pooo.. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[loopkiller 10+ year member]

OP, as Alpine said before me, I also lost my Dad to cancer. I watched a grown strong man become a skeleton. My story is very similar to Alpine's with exception to the amount of time I had with my Dad before his death. My Dad lasted 3 years after his prognosis. I wished then that my Dad would have been spared those long days of pain. I would give ANYTHING to have one more minute with him today. So you will have to forgive me if I seem hostile towards you.

Grow the fuck up bro!

You only get one Dad. He will not be here forever. You have to make each and every day the best day you have ever had together. If you want to show him that you truly care, you will not out him in front of other family members. You should ask him to go for a walk, go fishing, or where ever you like to have a private talk about your concerns.

The way you approched this is why he blew up. I understand that your heart was in the right place, you just were not using your brain. That is part of being in your 20's.

 

[James Bang 5,000+ posts]

OP, as Alpine said before me, I also lost my Dad to cancer. I watched a grown strong man become a skeleton. My story is very similar to Alpine's with exception to the amount of time I had with my Dad before his death. My Dad lasted 3 years after his prognosis. I wished then that my Dad would have been spared those long days of pain. I would give ANYTHING to have one more minute with him today. So you will have to forgive me if I seem hostile towards you.
Grow the fuck up bro!

You only get one Dad. He will not be here forever. You have to make each and every day the best day you have ever had together. If you want to show him that you truly care, you will not out him in front of other family members. You should ask him to go for a walk, go fishing, or where ever you like to have a private talk about your concerns.

The way you approched this is why he blew up. I understand that your heart was in the right place, you just were not using your brain. That is part of being in your 20's.

would it be the same if his dad was always a POS drunk and a bad father even since he was born?

IMO, having no father is better than having a POS deadbeat.

 

[loopkiller 10+ year member]

would it be the same if his dad was always a POS drunk and a bad father even since he was born?

IMO, having no father is better than having a POS deadbeat.

I can't speak to that since my Dad was a very honorable person and great father. But I would still say that he is his father none the less. If I were him, I would still follow my advice.

 

[bonesninja 5,000+ posts]

i was trying to help my dad with his drinking. told family and his friends and did a little intervention. he felt i stabbed him in the back kick me out as i was leaving i slammed the door. he comes out and socks me above the eye and then in the nose. i kicked his a** after that.//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/mad.gif.c18f003ab0ef8a0d9c27ca78d77a6392.gif

liar....now get back in your bedroom, you know you're grounded

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

for?

Said story, beating up father, caring for his father, posting on a forum where people really don't care, etc...so many to chose from

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

There are times when we cross the line and can never go back.You did that by putting hands on him.If he thinks you sold him out,then you did.At least you didn't get hauled to jail.You did what you thought you had to do at the time.If you and your dad never speak again,then that is gods wish.Though my father never put hands on me,it seemed that there were a few times where he did everything in his power to get me to hit him,I couldn't .It was out of respect.My dad drank all of his life.He lived to 87.I am his only kid.He died at 7:22am Sept.08,2007 of cancer.It was fast,I watched him go from 6'1" at 200lbs down to 116 lbs. in 6 months then he died.It really sucked.Once there gone,they never come back. Good Luck...Happy Holidays! Alpine50.............

So....just cos his father thinks something, then it's right? I do agree that as children we should respect our parents, but shouldn't our parents respect us? Whether it is family related, work related, or just in a social environment, if you give respect to one person you must give it back. If you don't give it back, you are not going to gain respect and the respect you had will diminish.

Simply put in this case, the OP's father didn't respect his son, thus punching him. Are you saying that the OP should have let his father continue to beat him? Or shall I continue to express how that would be a matter of child abuse.

Look at it how you want, but as James Bang indicated, a pos is a pos, doesn't matter who it is.

 

[greendragonslim 10+ year member]

you must not understand alcoholics. they will only change if they truely want to change. Even if he got sent to rehab, it doesn't mean it would help. Trust me, my mother had a drinking problem and it caught up with her along with smoking. I wish she would have changed, but by the time she decided to, it was too late. She died last year ( i was only 15)

You just gotta understand that it's not so easy for them to actually admit they have a problem and that something has to be done.

If he wants to change, he will.

My prayers go out to you man.

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

Your a F U C K I N G MORON! You never hit your dad you piece of shit.

So as mentioned, you take the beatings and continue to take them over and over? Again, child abuse. You can't blame the OP when the father is at fault. Father didn't like the approach son took, but does that mean he deserves to get punched? It's easy to speak when you have not been in the same situation, however, I am able to look at both perspectives of the issue, which makes a clear difference.

 

[loopkiller 10+ year member]

So....just cos his father thinks something, then it's right? I do agree that as children we should respect our parents, but shouldn't our parents respect us? Whether it is family related, work related, or just in a social environment, if you give respect to one person you must give it back. If you don't give it back, you are not going to gain respect and the respect you had will diminish.
Simply put in this case, the OP's father didn't respect his son, thus punching him. Are you saying that the OP should have let his father continue to beat him? Or shall I continue to express how that would be a matter of child abuse.

Look at it how you want, but as James Bang indicated, a pos is a pos, doesn't matter who it is.

Maybe the OP's actions were the cause of him getting hit? Maybe?

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

you must not understand alcoholics. they will only change if they truely want to change. Even if he got sent to rehab, it doesn't mean it would help. Trust me, my mother had a drinking problem and it caught up with her along with smoking. I wish she would have changed, but by the time she decided to, it was too late. She died last year ( i was only 15)
You just gotta understand that it's not so easy for them to actually admit they have a problem and that something has to be done.

If he wants to change, he will.

My prayers go out to you man.

This goes for ANY addiction. Addiction is a habbit, an ongoing and chronic habit. There is plenty of pyschology that is associated with this, but the goal is to treat the behavior. People can deal with it, they need all the support and the help they can get, and need to continue trying to make things right. The difficulty is on a case by case basis due to the personality and the severity of addiction for each individual.

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

I beat my dad's *** in a video game once, Mike Tyson Punch-Out!

That's about it though.

 

[donpisto 5,000+ posts]

Maybe the OP's actions were the cause of him getting hit? Maybe?

So, like I said, trying to help the father out deserves getting punched? If I'm doing something wrong, I would want someone to tell me. My instant reaction is not to fight to but to sort things out. If both parties are unable to do that, you won't ever get a conclusion.

 

[Lugnutz 10+ year member]

LOL the op is 26 and still living at home. If I was his father I'd hit him to.