Bad days. Bad weeks. Bad year? explain

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Women are emotional creatures. My sister was crushed when she had her surgery and lost her baby. She wanted someone to talk to about it. It would be pretty shitty if she came out of surgery and only had the nurses to talk to.

After surgery and awake...no doubt. I spent the night with her, missed a final (and made a C), and everything. I was talking about during surgery.

 

[2002XLT 5,000+ posts]

Her grandmother had it (well they thank so)...Anything is possible.
It's not that bad if it is treated early..but the x-rays look crazy. She has the spots on her brain. It looks like someone shot her up with some BBs or something. She was smart and an art person. But she also was crazy insecure and annoyed my friends. I do not think any of the emotional problems she had was related to the MS.

I do not think there is a good understanding about MS. It makes your legs not work...like when your foot is aleep? She says it is like that, but both legs. She can move them, but has poor balance because she does not know when her foot touches the ground. The medicine didn't seem to make her cranky, crazy, not want sexitime, etc. It just slowed down the number of episodes. An episode is a time when they legs/arms/ etc don't work. The steroid injections don't make them grow a mustache or anything like that, so don't worry.

The best thing you can do is to make sure she sees the Dr. regularly and be sure to report any issues involving the nervous system (like control over muscles). What you can do if you find out she has it is to plan around the side effects of the medicine. The medicine made her sleep alot. It was very annoying as she would go to sleep like 8pm sometimes...or we would go to a weekend vacation and she would sleep most of the time. I try to remember that she didn't do that on purpose. Also, you should ask the Dr. a bunch of questions...girls are dumb and don't ask many questions. Well, maybe she was just tramatized and didn't think to ask. You'll also get hit with about $8k in medical bills as each specilist bills crazy amounts so even after insurance you are fvcked. The week she got tested and stayed in the hospital was over $100k. Lucky her dad is ballin and paid for it and allow her to pay him back as she could. But just be there. There are gonna be some times it ruins your day, or vacation or whatever...and it sucks. But it isn't all that bad...if you detect it early and take the medicine right...it isn't too bad. It is easier to cope with medical problems that things like a girl's past or whatever.

Ya thats about what ive gathered from reading about it and between the conversations of her and her mom. Her mom was diagnosed at like 24, and now can hardly pee by herself. She hasnt been able to move her legs for 15 years. I just dont honestly know if, I, personally could handle someone like that. I guess you never know how you will react until something happens.

She really wants to go to the doctor and get tested, but she doesnt have insurance nor a job right now, her family is bankrupt, and im pretty much all she has at this point and im scraping by just to make the bills right now. Shtty situation...

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Ya thats about what ive gathered from reading about it and between the conversations of her and her mom. Her mom was diagnosed at like 24, and now can hardly pee by herself. She hasnt been able to move her legs for 15 years. I just dont honestly know if, I, personally could handle someone like that. I guess you never know how you will react until something happens.
She really wants to go to the doctor and get tested, but she doesnt have insurance nor a job right now, her family is bankrupt, and im pretty much all she has at this point and im scraping by just to make the bills right now. Shtty situation...

That's why it's called adverse selection. When you fall in love with someone and they fall apart, you just got to deal with it. It sucks, but don't bail out. (Even though you may want to). I am sure that my ex will suffer the same fate as your gf

s mother eventually and I hope that she always has someone there willing and able to take care of her.

Anyone can handle anything if they want to. Like I said, stuff like that really isn't that bad. It sucks sometimes, I am sure...but once you accept that shit happened, there is nothing you can do to fix it - only work around it, things get okay. I had a teacher in high school with MS. So, certainly people can be okay with MS.

If she feels that way, she really needs to get tested. Even if you have to work at McDonald's to get insurance, it is a good deal. Thinking woe is me, and this is a shitty situation is no good. You don't want her to think that she is bringing you down by the virtue of you being with her. That makes girls get all sad, depressed, and the medicine not work as well. She needs to stay fit, execrise, and such so the medicine works good. Not just sit around and cry about the world not being fair.

 

[2002XLT 5,000+ posts]

Well, she is pretty depressed period, which is really bringing me down and us apart i feel. Ive tried talking to her, but she just yells at me for not understanding. She lost her dad on Halloween after a 6 month battle with lung cancer, her mom went bankrupt afterwards and is now moving across the country. Also, she worked in the same building as her dad in a different business. Well, the lady is a heartless btch and fired her when she didnt come in the week he died.

She had another job and lost it soon after starting. Just hasnt been a good year for her and i feel she isnt doing anything else to better herself and when i push her, she gets defensive. I dont know what to do anymore, i feel guilty sometimes for the way i think but ive been dealing with a lot in the last 6 months, and im just about out of patience and money. Spending 20 bucks a day on someone elses habits, food, and gas gets old quick.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

It is hard...I know. My ex did work but her money was split between car, medicine, and bills...which was okay. I took her out from time to time, but she didn't like going out much because I had to pay everytime and I didn't like going out much for the same reason.

If you don't see things getting better, it is okay to leave. Don't leave because she *might* have MS, or because it is a difficult time. But if you don't see things improving and everyone wants to sit around an be sad, and you want more out of life...then it's okay.

My friend's gf mother died and all she wanted to do was mope around afterwards. I asked her what she thought her mother would think of her...Do you think her mother would be proud of a daughter that lied down when times were hard? She has improved her life some..but not much. You can't let them bring you down if they are not willing to try.

 

[2002XLT 5,000+ posts]

It is hard...I know. My ex did work but her money was split between car, medicine, and bills...which was okay. I took her out from time to time, but she didn't like going out much because I had to pay everytime and I didn't like going out much for the same reason.
If you don't see things getting better, it is okay to leave. Don't leave because she *might* have MS, or because it is a difficult time. But if you don't see things improving and everyone wants to sit around an be sad, and you want more out of life...then it's okay.

My friend's gf mother died and all she wanted to do was mope around afterwards. I asked her what she thought her mother would think of her...Do you think her mother would be proud of a daughter that lied down when times were hard? She has improved her life some..but not much. You can't let them bring you down if they are not willing to try.

Truth, and im beginning to feel like its not going to get any better. It also sickens me that she can smoke a pack a day when we just watched her father die from that exact same thing. I smoked up to the day he died, and havent touched a cig since, yet his daughter is smoking more now then ever, disgusting habit.

I dont know what im going to do at this point, i just know im getting tired and i dont feel the same about her anymore. I just dont want to throw her on the curb since im really the last person she has besides friends. No family, no job, no income, nothing of value. I still care enough to not want her to sleep under a bridge, but my patience is running thin.

 

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

Maybe that is what she needs. For you to quit taking care of her. I left my ex and found this independant woman who had her own place and everything. It is much nicer when you aren't the only support for a person and that they have others to lean on.

 

[AllStar1500bd 5,000+ posts]

Prescription drug addictions are very serious, and are usually only helped short term with being prescribed more drugs, and usually never goes away unless a long term plan is made to gradually drop doses. This usually leads to going back to being put on the drug again, unless the patient is strong emotionally and has high will power.

 

[Captain_Ahab 5,000+ posts]

Quite the interesting conversation here with very important lessons.

Continue.

 

[AllStar1500bd 5,000+ posts]

Sorry there's no animal murdering in here for you.

Move along.

 

[Pyro_By_Nature 5,000+ posts]

2007 had a lot of little ups and a few large downs for me. I'm hoping 08 is as good or better.

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

Man some of you people have had a bad year. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/frown.gif.a3531fa0534503350665a1e957861287.gif

Props to a better 08 again!

 

[faulkton 5,000+ posts]

So this past year was a ****ing roller coaster for me. Up and down. This past week as been hell. Which really sucks. Being that its christmas and newyears. For starters my doctor stopped all my medication (xanax) which thru me into horrible withdrawls and constant panic attacks. On top of that, for some reason I seem to have pissed off a lot of people this past week. I havent done shit all week except sit at home being sick, I get on aim today and everyone is mad at me for shit that I cant control. No need to explain. So, I started drinking yesterday. I'm finishing the bottle throughout today, and will resume drinking tomorrow. Dont have much to say, but do you? Have you had a bad day, or week? Or has this past year even blown for you? Explain your most recent. Nice to know people arent alone sometimes.

Sounds like you've got a Xanax addiction problem.

If he was really physically addicted to xanax his doctor couldnt just cut him off cold turkey.

He is just a whiney little bish.

 

[cheeto 10+ year member]

If he was really physically addicted to xanax his doctor couldnt just cut him off cold turkey.

Even if his doctor didn't know he was addicted and just straight up cut him off cold turkey, its still his fault for getting addicted.

And yeah, '07 sucked, I don't wanna cry about it on the internet, but it definetely did.

 

[Macklessdaddy 10+ year member]

I suffer from cluster headaches every year or two,this year I was spared,if you don't know cluster headaches are also known as ******* headaches and are thought to be the worst pain known to man,so any year I go through without those things are a good year.