Abortion?

[Flipx99 5,000+ posts]

what i presonally think is that if there is no abortion (sp?) then we will have more homeless people and stuff like that, like the previous story if he had the kid (no offence) it would be one of the shitiest places to raise a child. if the child get little to no attetion then it will grow up w/ a messed up head........................and mabye commit crimes, murder, steal ect. so i presonally think abortion is bad but in some cases it needs to be done

Actually, according to some, there is a link between Roe v Wade and a reduction in crime. I think the author is Steven J Dubner.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

well we are at the hospital and im on my pda-cell. btw its only a 20 dolla co-pay for this. thanks for the support guys!

Only a $20 co-pay? Heck, that's cheaper than more traditional forms of BC.

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

While I'm not necessarily against it on moral grounds....I think it's one of those decisions that you will regret later in life. Parenthood is a truly wonderful thing. Children can be pains in the ***** at times (and lots of them), that's for sure. But the love for your child is a love like you've ever experienced before. And while it seems like a good idea for the here and now....in 5 years the regrets might be worse than any potential financial situation you're in now.....
I became a father at the age of 16 (conceived when I was only 15). And I wouldn't change it for the world.

And, not advocating "welfare parents", but the government does have a ton of programs to aid parents in not-so-well off financial situations. Don't be ashamed to use them. Hell, you helped pay for them.

Though I would wait to freak out until a doctor confirms it. She's still pretty early...I believe most tests need you to be closer to/over 4 weeks to really be accurate. Or...maybe her conception date isn't what you predicted //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

Very well-stated //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/thumbsup.gif.3287b36ca96645a13a43aff531f37f02.gif +1 for j00 if we still could.

adoption?

Ding! Ding! Ding! //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif

I agree... abortion is murder.
but when i had a pregnancy scare with the last chick it was the first thing that occured to both of us. I had 300 dollars worth of "emergency funds" for an abortion budgetted out for that month just in case...

Good luck finding a legit clinic that will perform the operation for that measly sum //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

this is gunna be a HUGE thread....

Like that's a surprise considering the level of controversy surrounding the main topic of the OP...

from what i've heard....a chick can still have 1 or more periods after getting pregnant:fyi:
i'd have to suggest adoption if you REALY don't want the kid....otherwise do your best and you won't regret it

A woman can still have her menstrual cycle throughout the entirety of the gestation period. Most don't but it isn't at all unheard of for it to happen //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

Any idea how she managed to get herself pregnant?

If this question was serious then certainly the OP needs to keep his zipper up...

I haven't read all the posts, but here is my 2 cents: You aren't sure if you want a child. That tells you something right there, it isn't a decision you can take back if it doesn't work out. Have you achieved all you want in your career/school/fun yet? A kid will put a serious friggin damper on any of those things and really make your life more difficult and definetely strain your relationship and likely strangle your earning potential, not to mention forcing you to give up being a young adult that gets to party and have fun. I am not saying having the child won't be rewarding, I'm sure it will, but I am also sure it will forever alter your life and whether that alteration is good or not depends on if you are ready for it- sounds to me like you are not. Also, for chrissakes wear a rubber every goddam time! and she really should be on an oral contraceptive as well. That is the only way to be sure, I refuse to believe the whole "oops we had an accident and now I'm preggo!" She is now pregnant because neither of you made the effort to prevent it. Good luck bro- either way you are gonna need it. Personally, I'd go for the abortion. Statistically it is highly unlikely you two will be together 10 years from now and if she has that kid the worst case senario is that you end up playing the part of John Q Wallet for 18 years while she teaches the child what an a-hole you are and spends the child support cash you are obligated to give her on her new loser boyfriend or shoes, and you can't even afford to go to school and get a high paying job because you are crushed under the financial obligations and forced to work some shitty job to make ends meet. Please don't make the other retarded mistake so many do- don't marry this chick just because you slipped a few swimmers past the goalie- two bad decisions don't make either a good one.

ANY decision out of the available possibilities will be a life-changing one. No matter whether they choose to go the abortion route (I'll happily admit that as an adoptee myself I am adamantly against such a course of action), keeping the child themselves, or allowing a couple who for whatever reason is unable to have children naturally to adopt this unplanned progeny, it cannot be anything other than a highly traumatic event in their lives.

I cannot personally advocate going the abortion route as there are entirely too many people perfectly willing to raise a child as well as completely capable that would be more than happy to make the acquaintance of the OP and his g/f. There are very limited reasons for which I could justify ending a life no matter what stage of creation that life happens to be in but I am happy to admit that this stance is more the product of personal life experience rather than any particular moral standpoint or ethical belief. Back in Sept or 1972 (the approximate time of my own conception) someone could have made the same decision about me and I would have never lived to be a part of the world I currently exist in and consequently would have never had the chance to marry the woman I married.

A completely unrelated event, to be sure, but almost everything you do in your life has some causitive effect on everything that follows....

 

[smd4life 5,000+ posts]

wow insurance companies make abortions cheap. I guess it's cheaper for them to be rid of a baby than to pay for its doctors visits, medicine, etc. later on.

exactly...

 

[faulkton 5,000+ posts]

abortion is a lot cheaper than a birth and pre-natal care for the mom.

 

[smd4life 5,000+ posts]

take prowler for example, if his momma would've got one there'd be no prowler...//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[bikejunkie223 10+ year member]

I am not in favor of abortion, I just think given his situation it was the best choice because too many chicks say they are gonna give the baby up for adoption and then change thier mind. Few people can provide the kind of life a child deserves at the age of 20 is my point. And for the record Prowler- I'm glad you weren't aborted.

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

I am not in favor of abortion, I just think given his situation it was the best choice because too many chicks say they are gonna give the baby up for adoption and then change thier mind.

Sadly, I can't disagree with you. The upside to that is that "legitimate" clinics that provide such a service are prevented by law from performing the operation after so many weeks of gestation and those females who might be "on the fence" about making a solid decision one way or the other usually wait until it's not even an option any longer.

Few people can provide the kind of life a child deserves at the age of 20 is my point.

And a valid one it is! But there are entirely too many couples out there more than willing to take that responsibility out of the hands of the unprepared whether that lack of preparation is due to financial or mental inability or both. (and I'm not meaning mental inability as in retardation or anything of the like but rather simply being incapable of properly raising a child due to immaturity)

Shoot - all you have to do is have a look in your local paper or the Thrifty Nickel (what's it called now? American Classifieds or some such?) and there's usually tons of listings from people looking to adopt. Barring that give a call to the local chapter of the VOA and they can point you in the right direction as well.

And for the record Prowler- I'm glad you weren't aborted.

For the record, my two-wheelin' friend, I am too //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

She was 6 weeks into it I guess. Idk how thats possible since she had her period less then a month ago...

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

It's the exception rather than the rule, Vicodin, but it's not unheard of for a woman to continue to have her cycle throughout the entirety of the pregnancy //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

 

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

Idk but 6 weeks is alot... they didnt tell us that till after she told my g/f to talk the pill...

I mean thats alot farther then I thought...

 

[ngsmI3 10+ year member]

kill it, ***.

nG

 

[squeak9798 5,000+ posts]

I'm not reading 14 pages.

Update? Cliff notes? Did a doctor confirm the bun in the oven ?

 

[bikejunkie223 10+ year member]

I think they had the oven turned off- I didn't read the 15 pages either.

 

[faulkton 5,000+ posts]

but they decided to take the bun out early.. i think eugenics ate it for breakfast.