My g/f puked last night randomly and I jokingly said "Stop being pregnet" well this morning she took a Preg test.
Shes preg.
Im 20 something yrs old I make it by with bills but I never have anything really huge extra left over... I cant afford a kid. Let alone I still feel young.
I feel so bad doing this but I think we need to get an abortion. We are so careful I mean not like 100% but, we try pretty **** good to be safe.
Ok so personally I don't give a sh*t if you were using protection or not, one quote from a previous thread says you did not, then here you are saying you always used protection..........you admitted you were on drugs/drunk when she conceived etc etc. There is so much you have said that proves you are no way responsible and mature enough to have child.
However.......... regardless of what you think you also said your g/f want's to keep the baby, but is thinking of abortion because you both don't think it is the right time to have a baby. If you really want an abortion, then get one, at the end of the day it is your choice. I really think it's going to be a bad idea though, not for you, but for your g/f. She already wants the baby, if she gets an abortion she
will regret it enormously for the rest of her life, to the point where it could (and possibly will) cause the two of you to break up.
Trust me, there is never a right time to have a baby, it does not matter how old you are, how much money you have etc. There will always be things that make it difficult (career, money, education, age etc).
I have a son who is almost 18 month's old. When I found out my wife was pregnant I had no idea what to think, I was not ready to be a father, and she was not ready to be a mother (and we were being stupid and not using protection). We had barely any money, were staying with my parents, and wanted to do so many other things first. Despite all of this when we went into the doctors office for a 12 week appointment and heard the baby's heartbeat for the first time we both cried. To hear that baby's heart beating for the first time was, and still is, one of the best moments of my life.
Yes the first months of him being born were ****ing hard, until you have a baby you have no idea how hard it can be (other people on here with kids will know what I mean). you get virtually no sleep (our baby had colic making things even harder), just taking a simple trip to the grocery store involves a huge logistical plan (stroller, car seat, change of clothes, diapers, bottles......... the list is endless) and your life will never be the same.
Yet there is not a single second that I ever regret us having that baby. Every day he brings a smile to my face, whether it be him learning a new word or just peeking in and watching him sleeping.
Sure there are still hard days, again ....... having a child is incredibly hard work. But it is soooooooooooo worth it, people without kids cannot understand what it is like. In the 18 months since he was born we have got our own place (looking to buy somewhere bigger soon), I am in a really good job, and thing's are great. I am not going to pretend, things were a struggle, but a baby is
not going to mean that you are stuck on welfare/living with parents etc for the rest of your life.
Sorry for the huge reply, but whatever you decide to do, good luck. But you really need to think about it a huge amount, and you need to think about what is best for your girl even more so than what is best for you.
