Abortion?

[saywhat? 5,000+ posts]

I was done but I have one more thing to say now. You people that keep trying to act like "you're not a man if you don't have a kid" need to take a look at how lame that sounds in a situation like this.
The option is out there, and only this couple knows what THEY need. Don't try to chastise the guy if he decides an abortion is the right choice for him.

^^^^ding ding ding WE HAVE A WINNER!!!!!

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

shutup. lol everything thats "wrong" to people without an open mind you 100% backing it.

im tired of you honestly.

Do what you feel is best for YOU AND YOUR GIRL.

so the guy asks for our opinion. and because mine doesnt match up with what you believe im wrong. grow up. I fail to see how i dont have an open mind. but thats a diff thread. Honestly im tired of you. but you dont see me complaining about you.

and i agree w/ya beat, but he did ask for our opinion. i think there are plenty of other options available other than abortion.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

so the guy asks for our opinion. and because mine doesnt match up with what you believe im wrong. grow up. I fail to see how i dont have an open mind. but thats a diff thread.

I have to agree with Mike on this one.

 

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

And i mean about starting a new thread about how he does not have an open mind.

j/k

 

[Megalomaniac 5,000+ posts]

unsubsribed..

this is goin to get too heated. im out sorry

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

I have no opinion on what you and your girl should do, that's up to the two of you to decide.

But I did want to say...

 

[faulkton 5,000+ posts]

 

[justinschmiidt 10+ year member]

While I'm not necessarily against it on moral grounds....I think it's one of those decisions that you will regret later in life. Parenthood is a truly wonderful thing. Children can be pains in the ***** at times (and lots of them), that's for sure. But the love for your child is a love like you've ever experienced before. And while it seems like a good idea for the here and now....in 5 years the regrets might be worse than any potential financial situation you're in now.....
I became a father at the age of 16 (conceived when I was only 15). And I wouldn't change it for the world.

And, not advocating "welfare parents", but the government does have a ton of programs to aid parents in not-so-well off financial situations. Don't be ashamed to use them. Hell, you helped pay for them.

Though I would wait to freak out until a doctor confirms it. She's still pretty early...I believe most tests need you to be closer to/over 4 weeks to really be accurate. Or...maybe her conception date isn't what you predicted //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

well i have to agree with this post, it is a very hard decision to make, but if you decide to go through with this, you will not be alone.

the government will help you out, and as long as you keep trying to improve your situation in life, they will help you do it.

the fact is, most people in this country that are on welfare are off in 4 years after getting on their feet and moving on in life. in fact, the most abused government program is NOT welfare, its disability.

 

[delvryboy 5,000+ posts]

whats the GF's thoughts?

i'm not against abortion in any way, i feel everyone has the choice and i have no business telling someone what they should/shouldn't do.

as for myself, i would never think it. i got my GF of 6 months pregnant when i was 21, she was 18. we stuck with it, didn't even discuss abortion. my daughter is 11 now....there were times when things were difficult, but we got through it. her mother and i have been split up since 1998, and both of us are married now. i couldn't imagine not having my AWESOME little girl in my life today.

i believe i made the right choice, nothing will be easy regardless of your decision.

 

[UndercoverPunk 5,000+ posts]

Also, don't sweat it too much yet, miscarriges happen. I got a girl pregnant last year, she ended up miscarrying, and I learned a hefty lesson.

I'm with squeak, don't freak until it's confirmed.

 

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

See the thing is someone stated in this thread earlyer "my mistake" I gotta own up to it.

We use protection everytime. Pill and condom we arent sure how this happened really (and I havent seen it yet but The first person who says "maybe its not your" I will hunt you down and use a cheese grater on your face. Dont be stupid about this ok?) I dont consider it a mistake on my/her part if we did the whole BC and trojan stuff... The doctor said theres still a .1% chance people can get pregnet while using BC and condoms.

Anyways my girl wants it obviously... (mother instincs basicly set right in when she found out) but she thought bout it and doesnt feel that it would be best for us or the kid.

 

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

I have no opinion on what you and your girl should do, that's up to the two of you to decide.
But I did want to say...

Very true, but putting your self in my shoes in the question more or less.

I uh...idk.

**** I wish my friends were the kind of people I could just sit down with and discuss this. They would just be dumb about it.

It sucks when you got a really tough situation and you want to let it out and really dont got anyone to let it out on. I mean I could tell them but there descion would be stupid and not worth my time to explain this to them.

 

[Beat_Dominator 5,000+ posts]

Sounds like you have crappy friends //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

Also, don't sweat it too much yet, miscarriges happen. I got a girl pregnant last year, she ended up miscarrying, and I learned a hefty lesson.
I'm with squeak, don't freak until it's confirmed.

It has been, 3 preg tests by 3 different companys and a local doc. visit confirmed it.

Shes sooooo early on its not even been a month since we ****ed. The doc's are really suprised we can test for it and actually see it this early.

BTW I was reading your old thread about how that one girl got preg (when I searched for abortion that thread showed up). Sorry bout that.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

maybe its not yours //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif j/k man. You should have seen my reaction when i found out i was gonna be a dad. treated my ex wife like shit for about a month because i wasnt ready to be a dad and i didnt want a kid at that point(couldnt afford one either(in reality i dont think you ever really can)) but eventually i got over it. looked at what options i had available(as far as govt help and so forth) and made due with what i had. anyways im going home. send me a pm or something or hit me up on aim later and i'll be happy to discuss it with ya. Believe it or not i am a fairly reasonable person.