Abortion?

[Vicodin113 10+ year member]

I did a quick seach (skimed it over didnt really see anything)

BUT

My g/f puked last night randomly and I jokingly said "Stop being pregnet" well this morning she took a Preg test.

Shes preg.

Im 20 something yrs old I make it by with bills but I never have anything really huge extra left over... I cant afford a kid. Let alone I still feel young.

I feel so bad doing this but I think we need to get an abortion. We are so careful I mean not like 100% but, we try pretty **** good to be safe.

She actually isnt even late for her period but 4 preg test's later it still says she is.

So its not even been a month since she "conceved"

Am I/we a killer if we do this?

Please try to be serious about this, Im usually all bout jokes and shit but this is really serious to me and out of respect for how important this is... please keep it that way for me.

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[squeak9798 5,000+ posts]

While I'm not necessarily against it on moral grounds....I think it's one of those decisions that you will regret later in life. Parenthood is a truly wonderful thing. Children can be pains in the ***** at times (and lots of them), that's for sure. But the love for your child is a love like you've ever experienced before. And while it seems like a good idea for the here and now....in 5 years the regrets might be worse than any potential financial situation you're in now.....

I became a father at the age of 16 (conceived when I was only 15). And I wouldn't change it for the world.

And, not advocating "welfare parents", but the government does have a ton of programs to aid parents in not-so-well off financial situations. Don't be ashamed to use them. Hell, you helped pay for them.

Though I would wait to freak out until a doctor confirms it. She's still pretty early...I believe most tests need you to be closer to/over 4 weeks to really be accurate. Or...maybe her conception date isn't what you predicted //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[toolfan89 10+ year member]

adoption?

 

[Beat_Dominator 5,000+ posts]

I think it would be harder on the woman than the man in the relationship. I'd try not to force anything on her as it could royaly f-up her emotionally and mentally later on.

 

[.::DuD3::. 10+ year member]

i think you gotta really just take responsibility for it man. i mean not a lot of people have kids at the "best" time of their lives, but they get through just fine.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

In my opinion, abortion is murder. I understand your worried your not going to be able to support a kid. hell i was in that situation 3.5 yrs ago. and its the best thing that ever happened to me. Trust me you'll regret it later.

 

[yacob.naif 10+ year member]

i'm gonna stick my neck out and say no.

if you're not ready to be a parent, and she's not ready to be a parent, then i don't think it should be too difficult a decision.

morals

don't have kids you can't/ aren't willing to take care of.

 

[thatkidbob 10+ year member]

I think it would be harder on the woman than the man in the relationship. I'd try not to force anything on her as it could royaly f-up her emotionally and mentally later on.

i agree... my ex's sister had an abortion when she was in her late teens and early twenties which was forced upon her by her mother... from what i gather she hasn't been the same after that...

 

[XaznKewLguyX 10+ year member]

lol I had this issue last month and posted it on here and there was 10 pages of debate.

 

[.::DuD3::. 10+ year member]

but still, those pregnant tests aren't 100% accurate are they?

 

[jaycross 10+ year member]

this is a pretty touchy subject but i agree on the whole "its the womans choice" thing.... let her decide or talk it over with her VERY calmly... im only 16 and i dont know what i would do it my gf got pregnant... but then again i wouldnt need to know cuz her dad would kill me haha (sry jsut tryin to lighten the mood //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif )

good luck man and im sure ur girl wil stand by u on w/e u 2 decide

x2 on the helpful programs though i mean u did pay for em //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[thatkidbob 10+ year member]

In my opinion, abortion is murder. I understand your worried your not going to be able to support a kid. hell i was in that situation 3.5 yrs ago. and its the best thing that ever happened to me. Trust me you'll regret it later.

I agree... abortion is murder.

but when i had a pregnancy scare with the last chick it was the first thing that occured to both of us. I had 300 dollars worth of "emergency funds" for an abortion budgetted out for that month just in case...

 

[toolfan89 10+ year member]

my best friend (who is 17) came up to me last week an said he thought his girl was pregnant cause they got busy one night when they were drunk an he thought he could actually raise a kid with the money he makes workin at a churches chicken 4 nights a week and then try an put him an his girl through college but three tests later all was good

 

[yacob.naif 10+ year member]

so you think she'd still be the same if she HAD a kid in her early twenties?

we're talking lesser of two evils here.

the answers to these questions are NOT black and white.

 

[Megalomaniac 5,000+ posts]

I am more of pro-choice. But it have to be a real outrageous situtation for me to actually consider an abortion. You are 20, how old is she? Either way i am sure you can manage to support the child regardless. Worst comes to worst adoption. i say.

BTw: if you guys want to know what "outrageous" situation it had to be for me to consider an aabortion. i am thinkin along the lines of **** victims.