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[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

kind of hahahaha. I think its funny.

 

[alove_85 10+ year member]

Time for THE THREAD support group to kick in again, and hopefully your personal experiences can help me. Ok here's the deal: Me and the girl who I broke up with this past weekend still keep talking every night and she wants to keep talking alot and wants us to be together again eventually. Now here's my side: I don't even really know much of why I broke it off with her, I've just been feeling like it's not worth all the hasle and all that stuff. I mean, I'm gonna be 21 in a few months, starting off a new career that requires up to 16 hours a day of work, plus once I move I'll still be a good 5 hour drive away from seeing her. She'll be in Fargo and I'll be in Minneapolis. Try and stick it out and go through the hardship of a long distance relationship, or just have fun being young, focusing on my career, and seeing what comes along in Minneapolis? It's tough //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif, I really really wish I could just forget the whole thing between us and go back to being friends so I don't have to go through all of this wondering and worrying, but oh well I guess. Opinions please? Anything else you need to know and I'll give whatever info you need.

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[iagrdshaka 5,000+ posts]

SAFE-N-SOUND - Blackness DENIED

Good!!!

 

[iagrdshaka 5,000+ posts]

Time for THE THREAD support group to kick in again, and hopefully your personal experiences can help me. Ok here's the deal: Me and the girl who I broke up with this past weekend still keep talking every night and she wants to keep talking alot and wants us to be together again eventually. Now here's my side: I don't even really know much of why I broke it off with her, I've just been feeling like it's not worth all the hasle and all that stuff. I mean, I'm gonna be 21 in a few months, starting off a new career that requires up to 16 hours a day of work, plus once I move I'll still be a good 5 hour drive away from seeing her. She'll be in Fargo and I'll be in Minneapolis. Try and stick it out and go through the hardship of a long distance relationship, or just have fun being young, focusing on my career, and seeing what comes along in Minneapolis? It's tough //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif, I really really wish I could just forget the whole thing between us and go back to being friends so I don't have to go through all of this wondering and worrying, but oh well I guess. Opinions please? Anything else you need to know and I'll give whatever info you need.
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Long distance relationships never work. I had to break it off with my last "long term" gf because an hour away from each other just didnt work out for either of us.

 

[alove_85 10+ year member]

Long distance relationships never work. I had to break it off with my last "long term" gf because an hour away from each other just didnt work out for either of us.

ah, I was looking for some reassurance //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[alove_85 10+ year member]

Only thing that sucks is that she's my older sister's best friend, and since I see my sister alot, I'll still being seeing her around too //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[alove_85 10+ year member]

how do you get over the "she's so freaking hot" part? lol

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

Long distance relationships do work. Both people have to be willing, strong, and not at all petty. And definitely not selfish. Basically you have to be mature. 5 hours isnt that far. IA, one hour isnt far at all, that wasnt worth breaking off. I drive more than that for ****.

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

alove, how bad do you *think* you want to be with her? same question to her. Have you had any other problems in the relationship?

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

Ho wfar do you think this will go (marriage, just a college thing, friends that **** occasionally)? What are you two looking for.

 

[alove_85 10+ year member]

I forgot to add two VERY big points. I'm christian, and I believe it god, she doesn't. I want kids of my own eventually, and she doesn't ever. It never was really serious, we've just talked alot through my sister, then one day we just decided to go for it, and then 3 weeks later I broke it off because I just wasn't feeling like she was "the one" for me. It's basically just based on a "feeling" I get, nothing more, but that feeling has always been right in my past relationships. I just don't think it's worth constantly thinking about her all the time, since I can only see her like once a month. Here's what I mean by that: My college is pricate and goes by cycles, 1-10. I got a 4.0 for all 5 cycles, now I'm in cycle 6 and I have a few A's and a few C's, and I know **** well why too. It never leaves me alone! ahhhhh, I need to stay focused //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[iagrdshaka 5,000+ posts]

IA, one hour isnt far at all, that wasnt worth breaking off. I drive more than that for ****.

At first when I moved up to college, it wasnt, but after 4 months, her or me driving an hour to see each other Thursday-Sunday started wear us out. Plus not being able to be with her every day got to me.

But I guess if you both are trust worthy toward each other and are that into each other, then by all means go for it!

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

Ok so being with her is affecting your grades, your life and in a way if you think about it, and wanna get crazy with it....your future. A future which you seem pretty sure she isnt going to be a part of haha. The other thing, if you say this feeling hasnt failed you in the past. You she be able to rest easy knowing you did the right thing.

 

[Eldorado 5,000+ posts]

TC> RE

thilo is teh ch!ll

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

At first when I moved up to college, it wasnt, but after 4 months, her or me driving an hour to see each other Thursday-Sunday started wear us out. Plus not being able to be with her every day got to me.
But I guess if you both are trust worthy toward each other and are that into each other, then by all means go for it!

I would have done a lot to have my ex that close. Im a driver, I could drive that shit twice(there and back) a day. Thats just me tho, im always looking for an excuse to drive. Example, when I was in korea, Everyday I rode a train an hour and a half to seoul, either to go out or towards the end of my tour, to see my ex. Everyday after work, then get up at 430am and ride back 2 hours to make it to owrk on time. I dont think I ever slept in my own bed for 4-5 months straight.