Serious Conversation with "Good Guys" on the forum

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

we decided to have an "open" marriage for a while. its not my proudest moment. It was back when i didnt understand what real love was and what a marriage really was. I was far too young and immature in those days.

Man I am sorry to hear that. I know that had to result in some bad times. I just don't see how that can work for anyone. The human mind, spirit or whatever just isn't wired for it IMO.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

Your above-quoted statement (content from post # 105) about the woman generally will come to resent it happening eventually even if she says it's okay to begin with is spot-on.Women (the majority of them) didn't learn to share well when they were in primary school. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

Aside from that? It just seldom works. One side or the other (if not both) will eventually come to feel that if they aren't enough to satisfy their partner then why are they together in the first place?

see, thats why i like you, you are able to take what im saying and put it in a more simplex and wordy mannor. i love it.

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

Man I am sorry to hear that. I know that had to result in some bad times. I just don't see how that can work for anyone. The human mind, spirit or whatever just isn't wired for it IMO.

shit happens. you live and u learn, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and bitter.

 

[Slammed 5,000+ posts]

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[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

Mrs Prowler would unceremoniously slit my throat if I was to even suggest such a thing. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

well as i said, from prev. experience it seldom works. im sure your woman would respect you more if you said you couldnt stand the thought of sharing her.

 

[HitManSE 10+ year member]

LMAO this is one funny *** thread. Started with a date, went onto a success story (which is quite cool btw) now onto 3sums... ehh lets keep it going. I see nothing wrong here //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

well as i said, from prev. experience it seldom works. im sure your woman would respect you more if you said you couldnt stand the thought of sharing her.

As much of a struggle as it has been to simply maintain our relationship (more recently our marriage) it pretty much goes without saying, I should think, in our case.

She knows that even the thought of another man putting his hands on her in the same manner that I do makes my skin crawl.

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

I did the whole threesome thing ages ago and it actually ruined my relationship. I was getting jealous because she kept wanting to go over there with me and I didnt. I know righ, who would turn down a threesome. Well I did and it made out relationship wierd. She thought something was wrong with me and then on top of it she tried to lay a guilt trip on me. I then at that time spoke my mind and said, ya know if she was more a lipstick lesbian then shit I would be good to go, but this whole dyke,look like you been riden harder than a Harley Davidson just wasnt working for me. She said I was being difficult. Yeah Ok biotch! I will be difficult and keep my dick a swinging for some new *****! That was pretty much the end of that one. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

Anyway to Preston

Just be yourself like some have said. You seem like a cool dude for the most part and have a good head on your shoulders. Just dont let some of that cocky *** attitude you have shown through on here to her or she might be out before she is in kinda thing. Then again some chicks like that as well. I am not like that though. Well was at one time spending shit loads of money and was pretty much a waste now that I look back on it. Just go out have fun and take it a day at a time and see what happens. Hopefully it all goes as you have planned, but if she expects you to always spend big, then drop it like its hot and move on to bigger, cheaper things. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

 

[Acidburn 5,000+ posts]

this thread has been interesting...

advice-fest

sausage-fest

******-fest

the one common thread?....

IDB!

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

I'd be pretty pissed if I didn't get some poon after spending $300 on a girl.

That's an incredibly shallow perspective IMO...

I spent a few thousand dollars just to be able to meet a woman with no expectations of getting any. (Hopes I don't mind admitting to but there was no expectation)

Im the kinda guy who has to go allllllllll out.
But im gonna be honest with you, dont take anyones advice here. Reason for that is because its not something YOU thought of.

If you do something someone here thought of, your doing what WE do and she could just like what WE did and not something you would of thought of (I know its hard to describe and I hope it makes sense)

You really need to sit down and think of something you like and you want to do and express with her that way your 100% your self and not 50% your self on the date and 50% of an idea we thought of.

Do what you think is romantic, something that you can think of doing agian and that way she falls for you.. and only you.

Just be your self. If its taking her to mcdonalds because its something you want do it. Thats just who you are. And if shes not into it... she not into you.

If you want to spend that 100 dollars on the meal because thats you then do it! As long as thats truely who you are.

Ive taken woman out to dates and spend a shit load of money on an idea that wasnt mine, ****ed her hardcore and never talked to her again cause the next few times we went out I did what I WANTED and it was different then the begining (Like I said this is hard to describe so I hope it makes sense).

Just to some it up dont take anyone advice just be 110% you if not more.

Pretty sound advice, surprisingly...

this thread has been interesting...advice-fest

sausage-fest

******-fest

the one common thread?....

IDB!

What's IDB all about, Acid? Woefully I'm lost on that one...

Preston~

Here's one for you, friend.

If you go the flowers route send her some on a completely random occasion. Not for her birthday or a holiday such as Valentine's when they're pretty cliche but rather just totally out of the blue for no good reason at all. Few women remember getting flowers for V-day or their birthdays or dates of that ilk as it's somewhat expected. When they get a dozen (or two) roses in the middle of March because you simply felt like it or a seasonal bouquet on the first of November for no other reason other than they were on your mind I promise she'll take that memory to her grave.

I sent Mrs Prowler flowers that I had delivered to her work for my birthday this year. She called me not long after they arrived to ask what they were for and I simply told her because it was my birthday and as I was having to celebrate it without her she was foremost on my mind right then.

I've been regularly promised reciprocation of the thought 10x over once I am home and she has the opportunity ever since...

 

[luvinthebass 5,000+ posts]

what is it with girls and flowers? Do they like them cuz it's a sign of love or the smell or what?

 

[Acidburn 5,000+ posts]

In Da Butt //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[bigbangtheory 5,000+ posts]

what is it with girls and flowers? Do they like them cuz it's a sign of love or the smell or what?

A mixture of that and something else I presume.

 

[Prowler573 5,000+ posts]

what is it with girls and flowers? Do they like them cuz it's a sign of love or the smell or what?

Some like the smell of fresh-cut flowers in a room.

Some just like them because your average woman likes "pretty" things surrounding them.

Some are simply a fan of the fact that you took the time to do something purely for them.

There's a long list of why women are into flowers....pick one that works for you, I reckon. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/wink.gif.608e3ea05f1a9f98611af0861652f8fb.gif

Acid~ Thanks for the clarification //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/thumbsup.gif.3287b36ca96645a13a43aff531f37f02.gif