Merry ****ing xmas :(

[94Mazda626 10+ year member]

Wife wants to seperate

I know it's long, but this has me torn up, please no tl;dr, this is

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I happened across a message my wife had sent to a friend of hers when she was using my laptop. She was telling them about how she had decided to leave me, because she wasn't getting what she needed from me. I thought we had an above average relationship, the rare time we fought it was about how she felt she wasn't getting the attention she deserved. I spent every possible moment with her, and couldn't understand what she meant. When asked she said it wasn't about attention so much as the way I looked at her... or should i say didn't look at her. She felt that when I looked at her she didn't feel that I thought she was the greatest thing in the world, but I do. I can't imagine my life without her and have told her this before.

I found out not from my wife of 12 years, met and started dating at 15... 18 years ago, but from an email.

She wants to dump me because I don't look at her the right way????? WTF??????

I love this woman with all of my heart, would do anything for her, tell her daily how much I love her and want to be with her and this is how I find out? 5 days before xmas and I don't even hear it from her? I hear it from an email she sent to a friend?

Hi there.

Thanks for the 2 a.m text. I slept through it and got it first thing this morning.....surprisingly slept like a baby last night. Guess finally making some decissions has taken alot of stress away. Added some different stress but it's so wierd, part of me is feeling terrified but there is so much of me that's excited and happy to be moving on and just being "me". I've missed me.......there has been so much time wasted trying to make him happy and trying to make him make me happy that I feel a little liberated in knowing that i'm not responsible for putting that on him anymore. Was'nt fair to him either and i'm fairly certain that someday he's going to be one of those men ****ing about the ex wife who was never really satisfied with anything. LOL

Well, I guess we started to touch on things yesterday when we were chatting but there are a couple things I would like to try and make very clear. Not sure typing this out in an e-mail is the way to make things clear but i'm going to try because it's really the only way right now and if you have questions/comments/concrens you can always ask.

I am seperating from ***** because I know that I will never get what I need from him and I am selfish enough to want to either find it with someone or be alone. At least that way i'm not putting all that pressure on him and i'm not feeling so alone with someone i should'nt feel alone with.

I am not rushing into anything. I have thought about this for a very long time. I've told ***** that i'd like it if he wants to live in the basement room when he's home from work and we can take until spring to work on getting things organised money wise and we'll have some time to make decissions about the house and (our son). I want to be his friend and I want him to be (our son's) dad. I love him very much, just can't be with him right now....

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[1rockford1 5,000+ posts]

im not gona read all that.

 

[duece212 5,000+ posts]

damn, and she wants you to move into the basement....that's cold

women are needy around the holidays....I suggest going and finding one of the needy single ones and start banging her immediately

 

[revrider1 5,000+ posts]

damn, and she wants you to move into the basement....that's cold
women are needy around the holidays....I suggest going and finding one of the needy single ones and start banging immediately

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[misfit138 5,000+ posts]

Women. They're dumb as f*ck, but they have all the p*ssy...

 

[ba11in17 10+ year member]

well dang man, very sorry to hear all this, i went through this almost same thing when i was about 9 with my mom and dad, the best advice i can give you is from the kids standpoint, and that is to just be there for him no matter wat because he is always gonna be your son, outside that i wish i could give better advice but sadly i'm only 18 and have no room to say anything else

 

[dragnix 5,000+ posts]

She's lying to you. It's not the way you don't look at her, it's the way that someone else is looking at her that she just prefers more...

 

[misfit138 5,000+ posts]

She's lying to you. It's not the way you don't look at her, it's the way that someone else is looking at her that she just prefers more...

truth

 

[duece212 5,000+ posts]

She's lying to you. It's not the way you don't look at her, it's the way that someone else is looking at her that she just prefers more...

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[RogerKline 10+ year member]

Is it a nice basement?

 

[jeep2000 10+ year member]

Wow man im sorry for you. I guess some women just cant be pleased! It sucks you wasted so many years trying to..

 

[TMali 10+ year member]

Fyl

 

[revrider1 5,000+ posts]

Wow man im sorry for you. I guess some women just cant be pleased! It sucks you wasted so many years trying to..

True, I did the same trying for years...

 

[95BlackGA 5,000+ posts]

She's a dumb **** anyway!!! (I didn't read any of this, sorry.)

 

[MakeshiftAudio 10+ year member]

Sucks. Recently happened to me in a similar way. Still havn't gotten over it. I wish you luck being that she will be around to haunt you, constantly reminding you that she got tired of trying. :\ Really sucks.