How to tell your girl you cheated

[Haunz 10+ year member]

I cheated on a GF back in highschool... she was a tramp who dumped my buddy to get with me, that I dated for maybe 4 mths... if you saw her and the girl I cheated with side by side many would do the same I think... and I really don't feel too bad since she was a 'bigger better deal' kind of girl who like I said dumped my bro for me... but I know I hurt her feelings pretty badly...

After a party at my house I humped this chick Laura in a room full of my friends... she had made it clear that she was going to crash in my bed, and I'm sure more then half of dudes passed out on the floor in my room were there to make sure nothing happened... my poor friend james woke up to see my cock, balls, and taint stepping over his head at about 5AM after we first went at it... We spent the entire next day screwing which pissed off several people... Not only a bunch of my buddies who wanted this chick for themselves, but my best friend Barry who left a box of 12 condoms behind which we used all of that day.. because of that he could not get laid for the next week as he had no money to buy more.. lol

Anyway... aforementioned friend James was super pissed.. I not only fucked this girl he had a crush on.. I did it while he was in the room.. and he awoke to see my ***** *** right after.. served him right for trying to interfer IMO... but a few days later he gave me an ultimatum.. I had to tell my GF what happened or he would tell her..

With in a week I called my GF and told her what happened.. it was an awkward conversation and she was pretty hurt.. we kept dating for awhile but IIRC we never had *** or anything like that after.. it ended when she heard I had been hanging out with this other chic via my good friend James again who also told her the only reason I confessed was because of him..

That is the only time I ever cheated.. I'm still friends with james although I have not seen him in a long time.. Both girls in this story have several kids between them and are nothing I would want to hump today..

My advice to anyone who has cheated and actually cares about the girl is to not say anything.. realize you fucked up.. treat her like the queen she deserves to be treated as... and own up one day down the road...

 

[Bettr n' Revrse 5,000+ posts]

Women always tell the half truth haha

No no... But its a really complicated mess I couldnt begin to explain... needless to say Its gotten rough and I havent slept or eating for months and so I ogtta figure stuff out...

 

[matt_bennett05 10+ year member]

For LOL purposes, send the gf a penor pic with _____ (the other chick) was here.

 

[Why So Cereal? 5,000+ posts]

After you tell her, your relationship will almost certainly never be the same and just die down from there. If u really care about hher, dont look at her when u tell her. I did and i wanted to kick myself in the balls when I saw her face.

 

[matt_bennett05 10+ year member]

For LOL purposes, send the gf a penor pic with _____ (the other chick) was here.

That is, if you can fit all those words in the writing area... //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/laugh.gif.48439b2acf2cfca21620f01e7f77d1e4.gif

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

Payton its best you figure it out then man that does the sound good

 

[Bettr n' Revrse 5,000+ posts]

Payton its best you figure it out then man that does the sound good

I have had a few long relationships but this one has got me really messed up and feeling things I havent ever...

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

Well if you guys break up jose will take you

 

[Bettr n' Revrse 5,000+ posts]

Well if you guys break up jose will take you

After this girl itll take a lot to please me so he better step up his game!

 

[infamous_e46 5,000+ posts]

I'll plug his pewper so good he'll need to call roto rooter

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

No. Hetero

 

[Phoenix Risen 10+ year member]

Dude, accountability has nothing to do with it. Telling a person you cheated on that you cheated on them is to relieve your own guilt and is selfish. Not to mention she will not trust him an he won't be able to trust her after so if you tell her you might just end it. You start calling people ******* for not being accountable so next time your speeding flag a cop down and tell him you broke the law. In fact nothing good could come from him telling her so why would he.

actually yes accountability is part of it.

it doesnt matter how hard you try to hide it eventually its going to come out.

ive been in that situation a couple of times. first time i tried to hide it, after 6 months the girl a cheated with decided she wanted to start telling people. when that got around to my girlfriend at the time she was crushed, more so because she had to hear it from all of her friends than hear it from me. at the same time a lost the respect of a lot of people (again not as much for cheating as for not being honest and taking what i had coming).

the second time i was honest with the gf, yes we broke up but the entire process was much less messy. there werent 20+ people involved, it was a quiet yet very painful conversation.

still ended up without a gf but life was quite a bit simpler being honest.

and i hate to break it to you but intentionally doing something that you know will break someones heart is a completely different story from doing 10 over in the interstate.

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

It always will eventually get out

 

[Imtjnotu 5,000+ posts]

Some way some how whether you admit to it or throw it out in a. Argument

 

[disturbed471985 5,000+ posts]

I’m with most on here you really messed up man. Keeping it a secret sounds like a good idea but how can you look her in her face day after day and pretend nothing ever happened. She has the right to know so she can decide if you are worth staying with. With that said your relationships is pretty much over. You tell her then there goes all trust if you don’t tell her then you’re a POS that will be eaten up by guilt and die a very sad man. Messing with someones emotions is the worst thing you can do. Hell I would rather my old lady beat the crap out of me on a daily basis then to cheat on me. I can take physical abuse but emotional abuse is a different animal and can truly push some people to do things that once done they can’t undo //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/violent.gif.ccf64f7a34b20886d220db2fbff36f3b.gif. Had a girl that was a friend that took her own life over a guy. He never beat her he just tore her world apart with lies.