Decipha, Why You Can't Find a Good Girl

[WhoSayWho? 5,000+ posts]

Decipha, a while back you posted a thread asking forum members to help you figure out why you can't find a "good" girl. To be honest, my first inclination was to post a response making fun of your question. I find it hard to believe that you do not already know the answer.

However, after further reflection, I decided to post an entirley new thread and give you a serious answer. Perhaps you will give this some thought to what I have to say (as well as what others have told you).

You have to start off with the realization that, in general, a young woman does not just happen to turn out "good." She is the product of her upbringing. In all probability, her parents have committed 20+ years of their lives to ensuring that she becomes a successful, well adjusted adult. It takes a daily personal sacrifice of time, money and energy to provide for a child.

Parents who have shown this type of dedication have almost certainly taught their daughter what to look for (and what to avoid) when choosing a young man with whom to have a realtionship. They will unserstand that all of their hard work will be practically meaningless if their daughter chooses a man who is not capable of succeeding in mainstream society or is otherwise unqualified to be a decent husband to their daughter.

Since, in general, parents who raise children with high character understand the importance of family in a child's development, they will be interested in the potential boyfriend's family. They will also teach their daughter to look at the family as a predictor of what kind of person the potential boyfriend will be.

I hate to say this, but I believe that anyone looking at your family would have some legitimate concerns. I believe you have described your brother as somewhat of a low life thief. I also believe that you may have indicated that your sister's husband runs around with thieves. I don't think there is pretty picture on the home front.

I don't mean to say that you are forever limited or defined by your family. I do think, however, that there is a justifiable presumption that you should be avoided.

It is up to you to overcome that presumption. It may not be fair, but the reality is that you need to go above and beyond what others might need to do in order to prove that you are not of low character.

Unfortunately, you seem to have spent much of your life going in the opposite direction. You should consider that your appearance, attitudes and actions have only reinforced negative perceptions about you.

Put yourself in the position of the girl's father. I am sure that he would not be a happy camper to see you pull up in your pimped out ride, with hair braided or a dew rag on, talking about your ambition to be a rap artist. I can assure you that he would think of you as a big joke. Regardless of whether you have any real potential of making a living in the music industry, the father will understand that the odds are overwhelming that you will fail. He is not going to want to run that risk with his daughter's future. He is going to see you as a big joke. As a matter of fact, there is an episode of The Jamie Kennedy Experiment where the joke is that Kennedy portrays a white rap artist wannabe meeting his fiance's mother and sister. You need to watch that episode. It may help you understand better how others view you.

You also need to avoid telling people how you had to stay in New Orleans during Katrina because you could not afford to leave. It doesn't look good when you have chosen not to save enough for a tank of gas and yet you have wasted money on accessories for your car.

I hope that you take this in the spirit it was intended. You are still young. You need to change.

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[jj4475 10+ year member]

omg

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

wow, you do realize he makes all his stories up right?

 

[mattmcss 10+ year member]

gah dayum, great post.

 

[danteBirosel 5,000+ posts]

MWUAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAHAHAH!!!! i cant believe he took it seriously. hahahhaha!!

 

[JimJ 5,000+ posts]

Do you know each other personally? Otherwise, I'm not sure he's worth that much text //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[kpozr2 10+ year member]

wow, i cant believe i read the whole thing!! nice!

 

[MikeofTulsa Moderator]

This is great i must admit. a very good read

 

[ramos 5,000+ posts]

This is great i must admit. a very good read

true , also a touch on the scary side. He thought that long and hard about it //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif

 

[iceteebone 5,000+ posts]

wtf? why do you care? why couldn't you pm? wasn't this awhile ago?

just by reading half of it i have come to 2 conclusions

1. prowler has a challenger for the longest and "wordiest" posts

2. you are the one who needs to get laid

 

[mtdewelf 10+ year member]

who the fuck cares enough about anyone on this site to do somehting like this, unless knew eachother before site? sounds like you need a life my friend. True words though.

 

[turn it up 10+ year member]

good read...thanks dr phil

 

[mtdewelf 10+ year member]

jesus, only 2 post when i started my post lol

 

[SAG3 5,000+ posts]

you didnt write that

 

[mtdewelf 10+ year member]

you didnt write that

wasn't taken off a site, you see all the errors?