a ni$$a moment passed up

[thegreatestpenn 5,000+ posts]

I have a story to tell, but first let me give a disclaimer and working definition to help you see my point of view.

disclaimer: I do not like the word niqqa. I don't say it, I do not consider myself to embody what the word represents, I don't let others call me it, and I don't like when people say it. I am who I am and that word cannot begin to define me EVER.

definition time, niqqa: A black person that appears to be confrontational and combative, easily angered, selfish, ignorant, uncompassionate, and not willing to compromise, even if it means a physical confrontation will ensue.

On New Year's Eve my wife and I decided to go Salsa dancing to ring in the new year. I've only been once and she never had so it was gonna be a new experience for both of us. Part of the experience was a salsa dancing lesson to go over basic moves for everyone in attendance.

Now as the dance lesson was being given, the instructor called for all involved to switch their partners and practice with others (we were all in a circle, and the guys were supposed to go to the next person clockwise to them). My wife was uncomfortable switching, so we decided to just dance with each other during the lesson and tell whoever was to supposed to switch to go to the next person so everyone would still be dancing with someone during the lesson. I think part of it was she didn't want me dancing with other chicks too (lotsa single ladies in the place), but I digress. Every once in a while, a guy that had to skip us would say something smart and condescending about us not switching partners. The lady counterclockwise to us made a comment or 2 as well that I heard. These were white people that seemed harmless, but I could tell they were displeased with our decision to only practice together. With each comment I felt this urge to transform into a niqqa and raise hell in the place. I mean we paid 40 each for this night out and we can do what we wanna do. Also, we weren't rude about it, we just said "skip us please." It was nothing personal against them, my wife just didn't want to dance with anyone else with me. Yet these strangers felt they could make comments and faces like that's cool.

I tell this story because I see how confrontations happen between people over something small and stupid. I mean I coulda mouthed off to any one of the people that said something smart and condescending, but decided I didn't need to make a scene. I can totally understand how someone could be offended by that kinda stuff and blow up though. That doesn't make blowing up right and it never is, but I understand it. Sometimes people should just keep their comments to themselves and dirty looks to themselves and alot of altercations would be avoided. Sure, some niqqas are gonna be niqqas, but many people (especially oblivious, self-centered people that happen to be white) can avoid confrontations with niqqas by keeping the comments to themselves and going on with their day.

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[Alpineforever 10+ year member]

**** right, so many people think they can just be condescending all the time and that they'll never run into people who arent gonna take it so nicely. Eventually the smugness will catch up and they'll end up with a black eye or worse... I see it happen way too often

 

[bdawson72 5,000+ posts]

Come on nga

 

[galacticmonkey 5,000+ posts]

I havent read the original post or any replies, but Im guessing that youre trying to justify your racism.

No matter what you tell yourself, its not ok. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

 

[thegreatestpenn 5,000+ posts]

I havent read the original post or any replies, but Im guessing that youre trying to justify your racism.
No matter what you tell yourself, its not ok. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/fyi.gif.9f1f679348da7204ce960cfc74bca8e0.gif

this is why reading is essential*

 

[kowboy 10+ year member]

well done... imo, u handled it the way you should have. no need to fight over bullsh!t, because even if u win, you've ruined your night and probably will be sore in the morning, lol!

U represent the MAJORITY of black people, not the minority. It's just that the media only portrays the negative and that's why people think all black folks are niqqas. Again...well done!

Oh and btw...a lot of racists are gonna reply to this one, so be ready, lol!

 

[galacticmonkey 5,000+ posts]

Says who? Probably some racist white guy.

Im officially black from now on btw.

 

[shaneb 10+ year member]

I'm actually rather taken back. What a relieving story, I don't know you personally. But your a-okay.

I don't attempt to be a "self centered white person" but it is refreshing to see someone who is trying to go above and beyond societies expectations for black people. It really is.

 

[thegreatestpenn 5,000+ posts]

well done... imo, u handled it the way you should have. no need to fight over bullsh!t, because even if u win, you've ruined your night and probably will be sore in the morning, lol!
U represent the MAJORITY of black people, not the minority. It's just that the media only portrays the negative and that's why people think all black folks are niqqas. Again...well done!

Oh and btw...a lot of racists are gonna reply to this one, so be ready, lol!

the reason I posted is because most people are self-centered. I mean it is natural, we are born that way. I believe we have a natural tendency to blame stuff that happens in interpersonal confrontations on the other person, especially something that appears on the surface to be racially charged.

This thread gives people that are willing to read it a look at the mind of a black male dealing with interactions that I face sometimes daily. The only reason race is even mentioned is because most of the time when a black person blows up they become "just another niqqa" without seeing the black person's point of view and trying to understand it.

 

[chaunb3400 10+ year member]

kudos to you man...Im glad to hear about a fellow minority avoiding a problem, instead of starting the problem...

 

[4runnercrazy 10+ year member]

i didnt really get the point to that story

does this mean that we should assume that all black people are aggressive and you had the strength to hold it back?

.....Praise Jesus

 

[kowboy 10+ year member]

i didnt really get the point to that story
does this mean that we usually assume that all black people are aggressive and you had the strength to hold it back?

.....Praise Jesus

-fixed

 

[HypnoticCure 10+ year member]

ok, so only white people make comments when you arent doing what you "paid" to do... guess what they also paid to be there and participate. You were being a douche and causing confusion. then you come here and tell us how white people should act ? i dont give two shits if u didnt say anything or do anything, you and your broad were bein douche bags...

 

[chaunb3400 10+ year member]

ok, so only white people make comments when you arent doing what you "paid" to do... guess what they also paid to be there and participate. You were being a douche and causing confusion. then you come here and tell us how white people should act ? i dont give two shits if u didnt say anything or do anything, you and your broad were bein douche bags...

in comes the fun:veryhapp:

 

[bballrrt06 10+ year member]

Not extremely relevant to the point of the thread, but if she's worried about you dancing in the same room with other females, then perhaps the relationship needs some revision. That sounds a little immature IMO.