ok, now ive always heard that underpowering kills speakers and, blah blah blah blah.
1. now, is it just people who crank the speakers up till they distort because they dont have enough power?
2. so, therefore blowing because of distortion because of not having enough power?
1. Yes, a distorted signal is bad for speakers.
2. Yes, a distorted signal is bad for speakers.
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There are 2 common scenarios that exist when people damage their speakers due to distortion and/or clipping, and they can tie in to one another...
I. HU POWER.
....a.) When you're sending 15-22wpc rms w/ 5%+ THD to speakers, the speakers likely won't last very long.
....b.) Many people fail to realize that it doesn't matter how "good" the speakers are they put in. If they are sent a distorted signal, then they likely will not last too long. Doesn't matter if the speakers will handle 30w rms or 300w rms.
....c.) Many people fail to determine at what volume level their HU starts distorting the signal and will often turn up the volume past that point.
....d.) ...pure havok ensues.
II. AMP POWER.
....a.) If the amp (example: output is 30wpc rms) is not supplying sufficient power to the speakers (example: rated for 100w rms) and the system as a whole doesn't get loud enough, then up goes the HU volume. See point I-c above.
....b.) If the speakers can't handle a lot of power (example: 30w rms), an amp was bought to "match up" (example: 30wpc rms), and the system as a whole doesn't get loud enough, then up goes the HU volume. See point I-c above.
....c.) If the gains on the amp are turned up because the person thinks it's a secondary volume knob, then the amp will exhibit signal clipping and pass it to the speakers.
....d.) If the HU volume is turned up past the point of distortion and the amp gains are turned up past the pre-out voltage, then the amp will start clipping an already distorted signal.
....e.) ...pure havok ensues.
Things to keep in mind:
1. Know what volume your HU starts distorting the signal and don't exceed this point.
2. Know that your amp gains are not volume controls.
3. Know that if your system isn't loud enough, never forget the first 2 things and instead re-evalutate your goals and the capabilities of your equpiment.