i knew she was when we frist started going out, and somehow i was ok with it then, i even did it a couple times but i've been clean 6+ months. Now that we've been together nearing 8 months it seems to be catching up to me. Almost like it's coming between us, 3 days in a row this week she's gone out at night to visit her stoner friends and smoke. it's for 3-5 hours at at a time, and i don't want to go with her cause im just not into that shit anymore but im having a hard time choosing between putting up with it and either putting up with leaving her... last night i gave her pretty much an ultimatum that i can't see myself continuing to be with a stoner and she said it'd be easy to quit to be with me. But i know all her friends she hangs out with are stoners and she hangs out at least 4 times a week with them. What should i do when she slips up and ends up smoking? Not be mad at her like with quiting cigarettes and just tell her to keep trying? or what if it ends up being 3-4 slips in a month time, It's almost as if she's going to have to lose her friends in order to quit but i don't want that for her, Im just stuck wanting my gf to be happy but she's happy smoking weed but says she's happier with me, it just feels weird having her sacrifice something she enjoys so much. I feel like a dick, but i never said she had to quit she chose it to be with me? I don't want to see her friends anymore cause i know they're going to be judging me about being some controlling dick or something, and if i don't visit her friends with her at least sometimes she's going to get pissed off.
