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<blockquote data-quote="denim" data-source="post: 7959363" data-attributes="member: 545441">From the years on here together, you know me well enough and know I do my best to be objective.&nbsp; I don&#039;t like being the bearer of bad news, or one of negative perspective, as that is not normally me.&nbsp; I honestly wish a number of people, or at least one person, sat me down and talked me through the tremendous risk and damage if what I was about to do went wrong.&nbsp; In a way, I knew plenty of friends that I grew up with, that were children of divorced parents.&nbsp; I cannot say there is a single one that came out smoothly that does not have long lasting or semi-permanent damage from the divorce.&nbsp;  From your posts, I understand that a child is not in the picture now, but the potential for one not long after marriage is VERY high.&nbsp; Way too many friends etc. have been under serious pressure to have a child not long after the marriage, and that destroys so many relationships.&nbsp; The consistent downfall of that idea, is that so few marriages now, have time to grow and develop as a married couple and enjoy that stage of life, as those usually are the best years of the relationship. As for the cause of the break down, there is no one golden answer as it varies from one to the next.&nbsp; The best advice I can give you is to NOT rush anything, and weight your options on the grand scale.&nbsp; Financially, do everything to can to control your finances both before and during, with the thought process of how they would work if things went south.&nbsp; On a side note, I know of a number of unmarried couples that have been together a VERY long time.&nbsp; If you do decide to get married, I wish you all the luck possible.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="denim, post: 7959363, member: 545441"] [B]From the years on here together, you know me well enough and know I do my best to be objective. I don't like being the bearer of bad news, or one of negative perspective, as that is not normally me. I honestly wish a number of people, or at least one person, sat me down and talked me through the tremendous risk and damage if what I was about to do went wrong. In a way, I knew plenty of friends that I grew up with, that were children of divorced parents. I cannot say there is a single one that came out smoothly that does not have long lasting or semi-permanent damage from the divorce. [/B] [B] [/B] [B]From your posts, I understand that a child is not in the picture now, but the potential for one not long after marriage is VERY high. Way too many friends etc. have been under serious pressure to have a child not long after the marriage, and that destroys so many relationships. The consistent downfall of that idea, is that so few marriages now, have time to grow and develop as a married couple and enjoy that stage of life, as those usually are the best years of the relationship.[/B] [B] [/B] [B]As for the cause of the break down, there is no one golden answer as it varies from one to the next. The best advice I can give you is to NOT rush anything, and weight your options on the grand scale. Financially, do everything to can to control your finances both before and during, with the thought process of how they would work if things went south. On a side note, I know of a number of unmarried couples that have been together a VERY long time. If you do decide to get married, I wish you all the luck possible.[/B] [/QUOTE]

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