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<blockquote data-quote="Flipx99" data-source="post: 7959344" data-attributes="member: 562352">The link was blocked at work. I will check it out later.I see what you mean. We have both done that and it has led to mistakes we both regret and we have learned that those choices won&#039;t work. I feel confident they won&#039;t be repeated. I think we do great on the big issues&nbsp; (money, kids, religion, inlaws). What we do poorly with is the other person meeting each other&#039;s emotional needs. She is insecure and constantly needs to feel validated and I don&#039;t do a very good job of that. Conversely, when I am having a bad day, I just want to be left alone for me to sort things out. She says the source of this insecurity is because she doesn&#039;t feel confident that we&#039;ll get married and that sort of thing and that if I showed my commitment through action, such as engagement, then she would feel more confident in us and the &quot;needyness&quot; would go away. ---------- Post added at 10:34 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:33 AM ---------- Well, I was looking for the negatives. And thus far, everyone has given them in an objectionable way.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Flipx99, post: 7959344, member: 562352"] The link was blocked at work. I will check it out later. I see what you mean. We have both done that and it has led to mistakes we both regret and we have learned that those choices won't work. I feel confident they won't be repeated. I think we do great on the big issues (money, kids, religion, inlaws). What we do poorly with is the other person meeting each other's emotional needs. She is insecure and constantly needs to feel validated and I don't do a very good job of that. Conversely, when I am having a bad day, I just want to be left alone for me to sort things out. She says the source of this insecurity is because she doesn't feel confident that we'll get married and that sort of thing and that if I showed my commitment through action, such as engagement, then she would feel more confident in us and the "needyness" would go away. [COLOR=Silver] [/COLOR] [COLOR=Silver][SIZE=8px]---------- Post added at 10:34 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:33 AM ----------[/SIZE][/COLOR][SIZE=8px][/SIZE] [COLOR=Silver] [/COLOR] Well, I was looking for the negatives. And thus far, everyone has given them in an objectionable way. [/QUOTE]

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