What I've learned over the years is you got to have a girl addicted to you like a drug. They seem a lot more docile when they are co-dependent on you, but that does not mean you have to spend a lot of money. If you want to keep a girl, think the possibility is real, treat her so good she will not want to be with other guys. Make other guys look bad, as if everyone will use her, but you. Not saying your ugly, not for me to judge but I've seen a lot of ugly guys with some very good looking girls out here. It just proves sometimes girls need things ''emotionally'' which more men do not seem to understand than know.