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<blockquote data-quote="Gauntlet" data-source="post: 667760" data-attributes="member: 545529"><p>There&#039;s not much you can say to help her. You can offer your condolences, be there for her if she ever wants to talk, and all that sappy crap young girls love, but in the end she&#039;ll have to get over it and grow as a person based on her own volition. A problem many young people, especially women have. It&#039;s sort of like having an intervention with a drug addict - you can want to help the person so much and to see them become a better person, but if they don&#039;t want the help your efforts will be for naught. Having been through the same situation when I was younger, I would highly recommend not even entertaining the thought of getting back together with her. You&#039;re just going to perpetuate the guilt each of you feel for what you have done to each other in the past. Things may be great early on, but it&#039;s these wild-eyed illusions of grandeur that doom the large majority of young peoples relationships, and it&#039;s what causes the hurt to be felt a little too deeply when it ends. Take a step back and look at everything objectively; you said you two want to get back together after you two have settled your differences and the timing is right. This will never happen unless you attempt to convince yourself that it has, which will eventually result in heartache when you realize you&#039;ve been fooling yourself the entire time.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Gauntlet, post: 667760, member: 545529"] There's not much you can say to help her. You can offer your condolences, be there for her if she ever wants to talk, and all that sappy crap young girls love, but in the end she'll have to get over it and grow as a person based on her own volition. A problem many young people, especially women have. It's sort of like having an intervention with a drug addict - you can want to help the person so much and to see them become a better person, but if they don't want the help your efforts will be for naught. Having been through the same situation when I was younger, I would highly recommend not even entertaining the thought of getting back together with her. You're just going to perpetuate the guilt each of you feel for what you have done to each other in the past. Things may be great early on, but it's these wild-eyed illusions of grandeur that doom the large majority of young peoples relationships, and it's what causes the hurt to be felt a little too deeply when it ends. Take a step back and look at everything objectively; you said you two want to get back together after you two have settled your differences and the timing is right. This will never happen unless you attempt to convince yourself that it has, which will eventually result in heartache when you realize you've been fooling yourself the entire time. [/QUOTE]

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