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<blockquote data-quote="TaylorFade" data-source="post: 6599421" data-attributes="member: 618111">My wife and I split up right after Christmas last year. I knew we were struggling but it didn&#039;t make it any easier to hear. I know it sucks right now, but trust me when I tell you that it is only going to get worse. I know you don&#039;t want to hear that, but I&#039;m only telling you that so you can prepare yourself.As quickly as you can, you need to figure out what it is that YOU want. Stop thinking about trying to make her happy or making things easy on her and start working on what is going to make you happy and easy on you. It took me about 3 months to figure out that being miserable trying to make her happy wasn&#039;t the way I wanted spend my life and that splitting up was the best thing that could have happened for me; and probably for her. Honestly, it is probably better for our son too because he won&#039;t have to grow up with parents that are miserable with each other.You have to try to get along with her for your son though. Be friends. Be nice. But shift your mindset from &quot;married guy&quot; to single father.No matter how much you prepare yourself though, it IS going to hurt when she starts seeing someone else. The only thing that will ease the sting of it, and I am being completely serious here, is if you are seeing someone else too. I don&#039;t know what kind of wreck I would be if I wasn&#039;t in a new relationship. I dropped my son off last night and she had some new guy at her parents house. Whatev. It&#039;s her right.As soon as she moved out, I joined Facebook, went on a 2 month drinking binge and banged every ex GF in my friends list. I highly recommend it.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="TaylorFade, post: 6599421, member: 618111"] My wife and I split up right after Christmas last year. I knew we were struggling but it didn't make it any easier to hear. I know it sucks right now, but trust me when I tell you that it is only going to get worse. I know you don't want to hear that, but I'm only telling you that so you can prepare yourself. As quickly as you can, you need to figure out what it is that YOU want. Stop thinking about trying to make her happy or making things easy on her and start working on what is going to make you happy and easy on you. It took me about 3 months to figure out that being miserable trying to make her happy wasn't the way I wanted spend my life and that splitting up was the best thing that could have happened for me; and probably for her. Honestly, it is probably better for our son too because he won't have to grow up with parents that are miserable with each other. You have to try to get along with her for your son though. Be friends. Be nice. But shift your mindset from "married guy" to single father. No matter how much you prepare yourself though, it IS going to hurt when she starts seeing someone else. The only thing that will ease the sting of it, and I am being completely serious here, is if you are seeing someone else too. I don't know what kind of wreck I would be if I wasn't in a new relationship. I dropped my son off last night and she had some new guy at her parents house. Whatev. It's her right. As soon as she moved out, I joined Facebook, went on a 2 month drinking binge and banged every ex GF in my friends list. I highly recommend it. [/QUOTE]

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