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<blockquote data-quote="JimJ" data-source="post: 1186383" data-attributes="member: 555251">My dad was always on the road growing up - for four or five days a week. He&#039;d spend six months to a year doing this, and then stay home for a month or so before going out again. He still does, although since I&#039;m not living at my parent&#039;s place now anyway it doesn&#039;t make as much difference to me.Because he&#039;d have next to no time during the week for stuff he wanted to do, he would always go into overdrive mode on the weekends, keeping the place up, working on projects of his, just doing shit around the house. When I was younger, we&#039;d always go to breakfast on Saturdays or Sundays and I&#039;d help him out with whatever project was on the list for that day. He ramped it up when our new house was being built - I still tease him that it&#039;s like Monticello, which Jefferson never finished in his lifetime and always looked like it was about to come down when he was alive //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gifThe whole point of that? Maybe your dad doesn&#039;t connect with you because you two haven&#039;t done anything in the past to make that connection...maybe volunteer to give him a hand with something around the house...do something together. It&#039;s a small start, but it helps...I know if I hadn&#039;t spent that time with my dad when I was younger, we&#039;d probably look at each other like foreigners now.And your relationship with your parents doesn&#039;t get easier for a while - I remember my dad once told me that a child thinks the world of their parents...as you get older, your parents become progressively dumber //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif And it doesn&#039;t level off until you&#039;re about 25 or so //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif</blockquote>

[QUOTE="JimJ, post: 1186383, member: 555251"] My dad was always on the road growing up - for four or five days a week. He'd spend six months to a year doing this, and then stay home for a month or so before going out again. He still does, although since I'm not living at my parent's place now anyway it doesn't make as much difference to me. Because he'd have next to no time during the week for stuff he wanted to do, he would always go into overdrive mode on the weekends, keeping the place up, working on projects of his, just doing shit around the house. When I was younger, we'd always go to breakfast on Saturdays or Sundays and I'd help him out with whatever project was on the list for that day. He ramped it up when our new house was being built - I still tease him that it's like Monticello, which Jefferson never finished in his lifetime and always looked like it was about to come down when he was alive [IMG]//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif[/IMG] The whole point of that? Maybe your dad doesn't connect with you because you two haven't done anything in the past to make that connection...maybe volunteer to give him a hand with something around the house...do something together. It's a small start, but it helps...I know if I hadn't spent that time with my dad when I was younger, we'd probably look at each other like foreigners now. And your relationship with your parents doesn't get easier for a while - I remember my dad once told me that a child thinks the world of their parents...as you get older, your parents become progressively dumber [IMG]//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/smile.gif.1ebc41e1811405b213edfc4622c41e27.gif[/IMG] And it doesn't level off until you're about 25 or so [IMG]//content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/biggrin.gif.d71a5d36fcbab170f2364c9f2e3946cb.gif[/IMG] [/QUOTE]

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