Casey,
Do you have the bi-xenon (high/low) kit or the dingle beam kit? I have seen relays work and not work depending on the vehicle... Also, you might want to look into those resistors also known as anti-flicker kits.
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Hope I can help add some value here! I love answering questions about automotive emectrical, especially aftermarket lighting!