Crunk Times, My friend.....Crunk Times

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

**** it, why not share.

is this still for sale?

OK it is available again. Are you still interested?

Rob

How much?, seems like its been around

In case you missed or didn't see or don't feel like looking up my last price reduction, it was $230 shipped.

**** you look like a ****en loser on this forum all day acting like you DE MAN, ****en Fat mutha****en queer, go **** with somebody else ***** ***. All i did was ask you the price and you told me its being shippes somewhere else, so im guessin its been around. You telling me like its some hoe, i bet u never even got laid before ***** ***. **** you star wars lookin fanatic. go excersise and loose some weight fat ****.

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

**** it, why not share.

dam hahaha

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

dam hahaha

I seem to rub people the wrong way without trying sometimes. I am just glad CT understands me. Or does it just put up with me //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

I seem to rub people the wrong way without trying sometimes. I am just glad CT understands me. Or does it just put up with me //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crap.gif.7f4dd41e3e9b23fbd170a1ee6f65cecc.gif

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I just talked over this with a female coworker. She’s a little older than me and has been married a year. When I discussed my apprehension about not only the wedding ring, but the potential series of concessions I will make over the period of the relationship.
And we discussed a variety of things I like to do that she does not and that I will probably end up conceding such as making the bed, going to bed at appropriate times, time spent with friends, etc…a variety of concessions albeit it small if you look at each one, in total it becomes somewhat oppressive.

Then she asked,”What do you want her to do that she doesn’t like to do.” I said nothing. I feel that if I know she doesn’t like doing something, I don’t ask her to do it. I don’t ask her to change for me and I sit a hope you reciprocates the gesture. And she then asked, well is there something you would like her to do that she doesn’t want to do. I said of course and used a euphemism for a certain particular act; let’s call it “x”. She then said well, it’s not always a 1 for 1 relationship. She said, what about 10 bed makings in exchange for X. I would say that it is a fair deal. However, I do want it to be forced like a contract. I want it to be implied.

But then I countered that about if she did not do “x” and I made no bed makings, the net would be the same…in theory. She said, but would it be worth it to make the exchange….and I agreed.

Which leads to this? Is the basis for a successful relationship implied bargaining…an exchange of things you’d rather not do in exchange for things she’d rather not do. Is that what is meant by give and take? In the end, at least, upon prima facie, both parties would be better off after exchange.

Let’s say it is…how does one begin this discussion? I fully understand you can’t really trade 10 bed makings for one X, as both parties would just suffer through it to get done. But, perhaps, a trade of kind gesture for kind gesture?

Thoughts?

And this works for me as it is easily graphed…hell the Heckshler-Olin model describes this situation already.

Well I am sure you already know I can't help you here. I do know I have changed things about me and she has changed things about her. Nothing major and not too much since we both love each other for who we are. I have never tried to break down my relationship this way. I just look at the little changes as me wanting to make her happy and her wanting to make me happy. It's compromised that never really had to be talked about, contracted and made policy. It just happened.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

I won't even try to act like I understand what you are implying. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crazy.gif.c13912c32de98515d3142759a824dae7.gif

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

I won't even try to act like I understand what you are implying. //content.invisioncic.com/y282845/emoticons/crazy.gif.c13912c32de98515d3142759a824dae7.gif

the latter - we just put up with you

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

How do you communicate these things?

We don't really. We just "get" each other and seem to know what works. I don't know how to describe this, which is why I said I really can't help you. Over the years of observing and getting to know her, I understand what is expected. She has done the same. I dunno really. I just know it has worked for the 7 years of marriage and was pounded out the 6 years prior to marriage.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

the latter - we just put up with you

I can't believe I was too dense to get that. I feel stupid. It's something I would use. Flip has be discomboomberated.

That makes me feel loved btw.

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

You guys read the tech notes in the current issue of CA&E?

Guy said he wasn't sure that his new alarm would work with his truck because the alarms cover had a picture of a black Escalade, and his truck is white!

LOL

 

[Chevillac 5,000+ posts]

You guys read the tech notes in the current issue of CA&E?
Guy said he wasn't sure that his new alarm would work with his truck because the alarms cover had a picture of a black Escalade, and his truck is white!

LOL

no, but thats crazy. was he joking?

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

his letter sounded serious.

 

[IamDeMan 5,000+ posts]

See...that's pretty nice. I want to be at the point where I "get" what she wants/needs without me saying it and creating implied "deals". And vice versa for me.
Girl at work said initially, you have to have the conversations to communicate needs. I just don't want to make her upset or that she feels coerced to do things.

I think this is where living together for extended time helps. You learn the tell tales like in Poker. The trick is hoping the other half is being as observant and mindful of these tell tales. If not then it must be verbally introduced and that is where it can be tricky. I can say for one thing, don't try to verbally iron it out while it is a fresh phenomenon. Things won't be said right. In casual conversations slowly switch it to a subject you think needs tending in a tactful way. Easier said than done, I know, but better than in the heat of the moment.

 

[DBfan187 5,000+ posts]

Indeed. This is where I would need a smooth talker like Dev to come in...

All he would say is:

Spread yo legs and lemme see dat ****!